Postcards To Elva

Our family's journey through coping with a SIDS loss

SIDS research

We are very much at the beginning of our journey through understanding SIDs and what it means for our family. The question we ask ourselves continually is ‘why?’ Continue reading “SIDS research”

The Things People Say

I’ve deliberately picked a photo of Elva, taken in August when she was almost exactly 6 months old, doing her most unimpressed face. It was a face she became known for – ‘The Elva Face’. Continue reading “The Things People Say”

Early Days

As I write this, we are approachingĀ 8 weeks since we lost Elva. In one way, it doesn’t seem that long at all and in another, it feels like forever since I last held her. Continue reading “Early Days”

Losing Elva

We had been on holiday in DevonĀ for three days when Elva died.

That night, we went to a restaurant with beautiful sea views. Elva was fed and slept whilst we ate our meal. It was 9 o’clock by the time we got back which is much later than normal bedtime but we made an exception on holiday. Continue reading “Losing Elva”


Autumn has always been my favourite season and I was especially looking forward to this autumn.

I said many times this year that I was having the best summer ever. Going from one child to two hadn’t been anywhere near as hard as I thought it might. Not hard at all, in fact. Continue reading “Autumn”

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